As we grow up we admire adults and wish to become one. When we become one we look back and see the innocence and youthfulness of children and wish we could go back. Adulting isn’t easy and many factors make it challenging. What one considers being an adult another may not. Dealing with mental health issues we are often seen as immature, and seen as childish because we struggle with day to day life. When in reality that is not the truth. Strength is what it takes for us just to travel from one day to the next without exploding on someone or ourselves.
This article list 8 traits they believe being an adult is about. They are as follows.
- Don’t be an asshole – This is self explanatory, we suffering with mental illness typically aren’t assholes. Though at times we do struggle with our temper at times, at least I do.
- Take full responsibility where you’re at in life – No one is to blame for our mental illness, no one is to blame for anyone’s particular situation. We need to focus on ourselves and how we can improve our situation and conditions.
- Love hard and responsibility – Love with all your hard the ones that are important to you and don’t let them slip out of your grasp. It’s easy to forget about others when we are so focused on feeling sad about ourselves. Be responsible for your actions and take control of situations that you established.
- Stop Lying – Lying definitely hurts our self esteem and hurts others. Just don’t do it.
- Check your ego – Our ego can be large at times, sometimes we put on a façade to hide how we feel on the inside. Make your façade become who you are on the inside and it will make you feel much better.
- Call people back – People are just checking on you and want to make sure you’re okay. We need human interaction, it improves our sense of self and self confidence. Pick up the phone! Call them back! Text them back!
- Take care of your own shit – It’s okay to ask for help once in a while, “Oh I have a flat tire” “Oh I need help moving my furniture” but no body likes somebody who uses somebody. Take care of your own work and own problems. Friends don’t like to feel theyre being used.
- Be Grateful – This is probably the most important quality of a well rounded adult. We may not have everything we want, but be grateful for what we do have. We may not be able to afford those new Nike shoes, but we have shoes on our feet. We have family members that care about us. This is the most important step to overcoming and maintaining a healthy relationship with your mental illness. Write down a list of what you’re grateful for, it will help you look at the brighter side of things, and make you see that you’re not missing out on the world.
These are 8 adulting qualities, are they all that I believe make a well rounded adult? Definitely not. But it’s a good start.